There comes a time in God's purification where your motivations for doing things begin to change. Some choices become less about what you can get out of a certain situations or from talking to certain certain people a d it becomes more about living your life sacrificially for Him. Your only goal in life is to Him more. Think of it like a box with many wires connected to it. You grow to where the current reasons for them wires being in the places are no longer desired. You place these extensions in different places; you no longer have to have things arranged so as to live up to a standard and/or live in a fear. Now, it is a knowing.....an assurance of who you belong to in Christ Jesus. God doesn't want you live in fear. He wants you to find strength in Him during difficult times.