In other news, I have finally discovered my criteria for relationships. Think upside down triangle: Tier 1 (largest tier): This is the basis of my relationships...realistic expectations...for instance, when someone needs me to work for them, but I have a game or party or something to be at, I need them to understand that I have a life and respect my 'life happenings'. This is the largest tier because this is the basis of any of my friendships towards developing and getting deeper. If a person is not willing to understand that I am trying and gives me credit and meets me 'where I am', this person is not for me friend/deep relationship. Tier 2: Is the people relational level. If I am invited to a Christmas or Hanukkah party or some holiday that I want to get to know people at, I will totally go provided that tier 1 requirements have been meet, and I am able to meet the host 'where I am'. I will do about anything for anybody, and I will have fun in every instance. Christian friends/Messianic friends/other friends....they all run together, and as long as the first tier is met, I will do WHATEVER to hang with them. I am for Christmas because I am for relational. I am for family gatherings because I am relational. Etc. Tier 3: is the smallest tier because many friends are not compatible enough to go as deep with me .For the rare few that have passed levels one and two, level three is simply, my 'Messianic beliefs'. These are simple. They are important to me, and I follow them when I have met all of the requirements in both tiers one and two. For instance, if something came up on passover, I will do that because that is my obligation. If my friend needs to get together, he comes before any feasts I do. etc. This level is deep and small, but it is not that impressive. I do the commandments because I want to; I honestly cant tell through drama if I am supposed to or not, but Ive done it so many years growing up that it has become part of my culture.

People get to know me, but at different platforms. If they clear all platforms, I consider him/her a close friend. People who are stuck on level 1 ususally dont get much attention because that is who I am on the very basis level, level two gets more attention, but if people are stuck there, they will not see my Messianic side. And of course, because each friendship is different, people are dispersed throughout this diagram. I can safely say that there are only three people that have passed all three levels, and I hold these people dearly.